How do I know if you are being bullied and what could I do about it?

According to www.bullying.org.uk  Bullying differs from harassment and assault in that the latter can result from a single incident or small number of incidents – which everybody recognises as harassment or assault – whereas bullying tends to be an accumulation of many small incidents over a long period of time.

There are things you can do to deflect people who bully:

  1. Act more confident. If a person who bullies feels that they don’t have any power over you, it takes the ‘fun’ out of it for them .

  2. Hang around with friends or an adult at times when you’re most in danger of being bullied.

  3. Don’t fight back. It can make the situation worse.Tell someone you trust, a teacher or adult. 

  4. Fight Back – didn’t I just advocate not fighting back?  Well, simple put, don’t be a victim especially if you believe you are going to be seriously assaulted, they have not right to hurt you but you have every right to defend yourself. 

I believe that Martial Arts can really help to build your confidence and boost your esteem, and whilst you might not want to hurt people, you should want to defend yourself from people who might want to hurt you!  Find yourself a good martial arts instructor / club, phone them and discuss your problems or concerns, if you feel comfortable with them then book a free trial and go along.  If you live in or near Tring, then let Tring Martial Arts help you to over come your fears – see our website http://www.tringmartialarts.com for more information or call Chris or Paula on 0845 094 8805. 

 A shameless plug of my martial arts club?  Well yes, I believe in martial arts and learning self defence and hosting this blog and updating it with relevant content that I think can help individuals avoid the pain of being bullied takes time and money – so yes I will promote my club, why not!

Christopher Allen, Chief Instructor, Tring Martial Arts.