Bullying Advice

Bullying

Children are as much at risk from other children as they are from adults. This is most commonly in the form of bullying, although children can also be bullied by an adult.

If you are being bullied, you can phone ChildLine on 0800 1111.

Advice from Kidscape:

What can you do?

Some schools already have procedures to deal with bullying. These include:

  • Anti-bullying guidelines and procedures for dealing with incidents
  • Encouraging anyone who is being bullied, or has witnessed bullying to tell someone about it
  • ‘Bully boxes’, where people can leave notes about what is happening
  • Student meetings or even ‘courts’ where problems like bullying are discussed and dealt with
  • Specially assigned students or teachers who are there to help If your school doesn’t have a procedure, you could suggest some of these ideas

If you are being bullied:

  • Tell a friend what is happening and ask him or her to help you. It will be harder for the bully to pick on you if you have a friend with you for support
  • Try to ignore the bullying or say ‘No’ really firmly, then turn and walk away. Don’t worry if people think you are running away. Remember, it is very hard for the bully to go on bullying someone who won’t stand still to listen
  • Try not to show that you are upset or angry. Bullies love to get a reaction – it’s ‘fun’. If you can keep calm, hide your emotions and act like you don’t care, they might get bored and leave you alone
  • Don’t fight back if you can help it. Most bullies are bigger or stronger than you. If you fight back you could make the situation worse, get hurt or be blamed for starting the trouble
  • It’s not worth getting hurt to keep possessions or money. If you feel threatened, give the bullies what they want. Property can be replaced, you can’t
  • Try to think up funny or clever replies in advance. Make a joke of it. Replies don’t have to be wonderfully brilliant or clever but it helps to have an answer ready. Practice saying them in the mirror at home. Using prepared replies works best if the bully is not too threatening and just needs to be put off. The bully might just decide that you are too clever to pick on
  • Try to avoid being alone in the places where you know the bully is likely to pick on you. This might mean changing your route to school, avoiding parts of playground, or only using common rooms or lavatories when other people are there. It’s not fair that you have to do this, but it might put the bully off
  • Sometimes asking the bully to repeat what they said can put them off. Often bullies are not brave enough to repeat the remark exactly so they tone it down. If they repeat it, you will have made them do something they hadn’t planned on and this gives you some control of the situation
  • Keep a diary of what is happening. Write down the details of the incidents and your feelings. When you do decide to tell someone, a written record of the bullying makes it easier to prove what has been going on

For more information on bullying:

www.tringmartialarts.com

www.kidscape.org.uk

www.dfes.gov.uk/bullying

www.childnet-int.org