The Three P’s of Bullying Proofing your Child


1)     Prevent

Using awareness to avoid bullies on the playground, in the hallways, in the lunchroom and anywhere you go.


2)     Prepare

 ASSERT YOURSELF – Teach your child to face the bully by standing 10 feet tall and bullet proof, using a strong voice. Your child should name the bullying behaviour and tell the aggressor to stop.

QUESTION THE RESPONSE – Ann Bishop, who teaches violence prevention classes in the USA, tells her students to respond to an insult with a non-defensive question, “why would you say that?” or “why would you want to say that and hurt my feelings?”

– USE ‘I WANT’ – Communication experts suggest teaching your child to address the bully beginning with ‘I want’ and say firmly what he wants changed: “I want you to leave me alone” or “I want you to stop teasing me”.

AGREE WITH THE TEASER – Consider helping your child create a statement agreeing with their teaser. Teaser – “You’re dumb.” Child – “but I’m good at it”

IGNORE IT – Bullies love it when their teasing upsets their victims, so help your child find a way to not let his tormentor get to him. Try pretending they’re invisible or walk past them without even looking at them

MAKE FUN OF THE TEASING – Fred Frankle, author of ‘Good Friends are Hard to Find’, suggests victims should answer every tease with a reply, but not tease back. The teasing often stops, Frankle says, because the child lets the tormentor know that hes not going to let the teasing get to him

3)     Protect (The last resort)


Practise with your child – Guard Stance – “I don’t want to fight you, but I will have to, PLEASE leave me alone!” This is a very visible stance that communicates to the bully this is unacceptable and alerts staff or people around that something is wrong.

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